I’ll never forget the first few days after discovering my wife of 17 years had been having a sexual affair with a friend. I put her on a plane with a one-way ticket to her brother’s house only hours after being caught at a local hotel with the guy. As I lay in bed crying my eyes out, tossing and turning in a big empty bed, I felt so alone. The only place I knew to turn for comfort in the middle of the night was God.
Music about hope, encouragement and power in God have been instrumental in my healing. I would say that 95% of all the songs I listened to those first few days were Christian songs. For me personally, anything less than the supernatural power of God’s healing didn’t carry any hope. If I was going to survive this devastation of adultery, I could not find a way to do it on my own.
Alexa, My Other Woman
One of my clients showed me a hands-free speaker made by Amazon that you control with your voice called “Echo“. You simply give verbal commands to Echo and it plays music, reads books, provides news updates and plays interactive games with you. The key to starting every command is calling the Echo by its given name, “Alexa.” For example, I would say, “Alexa, play songs by U2.” Alexa responds in a female voice saying, “Ok, playing songs from U2.” Viola, songs by U2 start playing!
Songs That Ministered to Me
I can’t tell you how many nights I laid in bed listening to Alexa play music to help me find a sliver of hope. I put together a long list of songs (known as a playlist) with the title “Hope”. I would encourage you to put together your own playlist of songs that give you hope and encouragement. Here’s a sample of some of the songs that greatly helped me.
- “My Story” by Big Daddy Weave
- “Sometimes” by David Crowder Band
- “Everything is Mine in You” by Christy Nockels
- “One Thing Remains” by Jesus Culture
- “Made New” by Lincoln Brewster
- “SMS Shine” by David Crowder Band
- “My Anchor” by Christy Nockels
- “You Are The One” by Lincoln Brewster
- “Where I Belong” by Switchfoot
- “God is Able” by Hillsong
- “Frontiers” by Vertical Church Band
Where Do You Turn For Hope?
I’ve often thought, “How could this happen to our marriage? We are both Christians.” While I know that is true, Christians are not perfect and immune from making bad choices. In fact, I’ve seen Christians do some unbelievably terrible things to others. If we look at Christians to get an idea of what God is like, that’s often a huge disappointment. It shouldn’t be that way, but it is.
The entire book of Psalms in the Bible contains lyrics that were often set to music. The writer of Psalms clearly understood there was something cathartic and powerful in setting poetry to music. Can you relate to the following?
“I am worn out from sobbing. All night I flood my bed with weeping,drenching it with my tears. My vision is blurred by grief;my eyes are worn out because of all my enemies.” Psalm 6:6-7 NLT
God’s promises have always encouraged me. He gave us promises so that we could be 100% certain about many things. As music has been instrumental in my healing, so have God’s promises. Today, I’ll leave you with one of my favorites.
“But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 NLT
Do you believe this promise? Do you believe that you can find new strength by placing your trust in God? Do you believe that one day, you can soar again? I do…and I have.