“For you have been given not only the privilege of trusting in Christ but also the privilege of suffering for him. 30 We are in this struggle together. You have seen my struggle in the past, and you know that I am still in the midst of it.” Philippians 1:29-30 NLT
There are some very tough days to live through when infidelity has taken place in your marriage. Obviously, the day you discovered it and your anniversary are very painful days. Valentine’s Day is also high on that list because the focus is on love. It’s a love that you remember but may feel you’ll never experience again with your husband or wife.
In the Bible verses above, Paul is writing to the church in Philippi and reminds them of their joint struggle: to advance the gospel message. Paul is imprisoned in Rome at the time he writes the letter. He also knows that the church in Philippi is facing a lot of opposition. He provides great reassurance to them in that “We are in this struggle together.”
While I have come a long way in my own journey following my wife’s infidelity, I am reminded that we are all in this together as believers. Our common struggle is to try and restore our marriages. We are certainly suffering but Paul writes that when you suffer for a noble cause, you are suffering for Jesus. God the Father sees that and the Holy Spirit is within you to provide help and comfort. Jesus states:
16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate who will never leave you. 17 He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive him, because it isn’t looking for him and doesn’t recognize him. But you know him, because he lives with you now and later will be in you.18 No, I will not abandon you as orphans—I will come to you. John 14:16-18 NLT
My hope for you today is that you will focus on the love God has for you. You are not orphaned and alone. As a believer, nothing can separate you from God’s love. You have an eternal victory secured for you in that one day you will be with God forever and there will be no more suffering. Remember, we are not citizens of this world, but citizens of Heaven.
“Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? 36 (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.”)37 No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.” Romans 8:35-37 NLT