The Unsurpassed Intimacy of Tested Faith

Struggling with faith? Oswald Chambers has an important message for you about the unsurpassed intimacy of tested faith.

Recovery From Adultery- Three Necessary Attitudes

At its core, recovery is perseverance in faith that my circumstances can change and become better. The real question is, in “whom” or “what” do you place your faith in? People operate by faith daily because there are countless things in this world that cannot be known.

All I See Is A Cheater

I'll never forget the moment my wife disclosed her sexual affair to me.  It was like a dream...like it wasn't real.  In a split second my view of her changed.  She was no longer beautiful in that moment.  All I could picture was her doing things with the other man that for the past 17 … Continue reading All I See Is A Cheater

How to Forgive Adultery

How To Forgive Adultery, Part II

In Part I, we explored what the Bible says about the nature of forgiveness: it's offered freely by God and is not contingent on the type of sin committed.  Oh, but we want so badly for those who have devastated us to pay the price.  Unfortunately, that's not forgiveness, that's revenge. What Does Forgiveness Have … Continue reading How To Forgive Adultery, Part II

How to Forgive Adultery

How To Forgive Adultery, Part I

Forgiveness is one of the hardest issues to confront following an affair.  Many who have been cheated on either state, "I can't forgive them" or "I don't know how to forgive them."  In my personal journey of recovery, I knew early on that forgiveness was not an option but a requirement for me. It's For … Continue reading How To Forgive Adultery, Part I

Why Is God Punishing Me

Why Does It Feel Like God Is Punishing Me?

Adultery is so crushing to the spirit.  It's unlike any other sadness or pain that I have experienced.  It's unrelenting.  It's like your marriage was murdered and you have to re-live the event daily.  At least with death, there is finality. The despair seems to have no end, thus you feel hopeless.   In fact, … Continue reading Why Does It Feel Like God Is Punishing Me?

Are You Willing To Suffer in Overcoming Adultery?

  Adultery brings suffering. That is the nature of sin.  If there was ever any doubt that marriage creates a bonding between two souls, that doubt is quickly erased when one spouse breaks the bond.  The pain is crushing.  The soul is devastated.  Even if the marriage was not perfect to begin with (which it … Continue reading Are You Willing To Suffer in Overcoming Adultery?

Music Was Instrumental In My Healing

I'll never forget the first few days after discovering my wife of 17 years had been having a sexual affair with a friend.  I put her on a plane with a one-way ticket to her brother's house only hours after being caught at a local hotel with the guy.  As I lay in bed crying … Continue reading Music Was Instrumental In My Healing

The Devastation of Adultery

If you were blindsided like I was, perhaps you can relate. If you are in a Christian marriage, it's like you are living in another world. Even if you suspected something, it doesn't minimize the pain any less once the affair is confirmed. The devastation of adultery is real and spares no one involved.