"For you have been given not only the privilege of trusting in Christ but also the privilege of suffering for him. 30 We are in this struggle together. You have seen my struggle in the past, and you know that I am still in the midst of it." Philippians 1:29-30 NLT There are some very tough days … Continue reading You Are Not Alone Today
For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, 4 for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but [b]divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. 5 We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, 6 and we are ready to punish … Continue reading The Battle Of Your Thoughts
As I write this blog today, it's exactly 2 years to the day since I discovered my wife's infidelity. The temptation on "D Day" is to focus on me, my pain, my loss, my damage and my journey. However, if I have learned anything in these past two years trying to recover, it is this: … Continue reading Attitudes for Recovery: Humility
"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." - 1 Peter 4:8 NIV Is it possible that love can help you forget your spouse's betrayal? Well, not exactly. The word used here is "cover", which is better translated "to veil". A veil is used to conceal; you know what is there … Continue reading God’s Kind of Love
I’ll never forget the first night alone in bed after learning hours earlier about my wife’s affair. I felt desperately alone and wanted someone to understand my pain. I searched social media frantically to find some Christian help for adultery. When I didn't find much, I settled on a Facebook group that focused on helping … Continue reading Christian Help For Adultery
Our Story We had been out with friends the night before. My wife and I were coming off a Whole-30 eating plan in the month of January, so we had not had a drop of alcohol in over 30 days. The next morning I woke up and realized I wasn't going to be functioning very … Continue reading The First Seven Days After Discovery
In Part I of our series, we explored the attitude of faith and its importance to recovering from infidelity. Our foundation for this series is Matt 11:28-30. Verse 29 focuses on the second two attitudes for recovery: humility and surrender. Today we will focus on surrender. 28 Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who … Continue reading Attitudes for Recovery: Surrender
Struggling with faith? Oswald Chambers has an important message for you about the unsurpassed intimacy of tested faith.
At its core, recovery is perseverance in faith that my circumstances can change and become better. The real question is, in “whom” or “what” do you place your faith in? People operate by faith daily because there are countless things in this world that cannot be known.
I'll never forget the moment my wife disclosed her sexual affair to me. It was like a dream...like it wasn't real. In a split second my view of her changed. She was no longer beautiful in that moment. All I could picture was her doing things with the other man that for the past 17 … Continue reading All I See Is A Cheater